He’s manly, takes the reigns, but can be vulnerable. He can have the tough conversations and allows himself to feel, openly because he knows our love is a safe harbor for his fears, anxieties, and depressions.
He challenges us, in a positive way, to be better and go after our dreams and offers to help us get there. He walks the winding journey with us.
He is our lighthouse in the storm and the rainbow afterwards.
He chooses to keep the passion and excitement felt at the beginning, but also let’s us know that his love is comfortable and safe. In a world of billions of people, he only has eyes for us. His choice is to keep that same passion in his eyes– that fire-like wonder he looked at us with in the beginning.
He says when he misses us, tells us that he loves us as often as he can, because he knows tomorrow is not promised.
He continues to see our beauty, even when we are at our worst.
He affirms us, mind, body and soul. He ignites a fire in us spiritually– a fire that allows us to be more connected with him than we have ever been with someone else. A fire that allows us to be more connected to our own heart, soul, and the world around us.
He acknowledges that there is a delicate balance between being lovers and being best friends; he knows that we can be and should be both.
He knows the thought of us being with anyone other than him would shake him to his core because his love for us is something he’s never experienced and doesn’t want to let go.
He communicates his profound love… and if he can’t give himself wholeheartedly, he will not selfishly hold onto us; he will let us go to find someone that can give us what we need.
Because women want to give a man all these things, we expect a man’s love to mirror ours.
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I am a mom, so my wants are a little different now. All I really want is him to clean the bathroom once in a while……
A man’s love will never mirror ours. We love very differently. Neither love more or less, its just different. It took me almost 21 years to realize that we love from a place of security and thy love from a place of fear. We love being protected and they love protecting us.
I have been single and doing everything on my own for so long that what I want from a man is “not to get in my way”. If he doesn’t add value to my life “Get out.” I don’t need a fourth son to clean up and look after. I guess I am looking for someone who is passionate about work things so we can build things together. Someone who won’t ask me to cook if he sees I have projects, but brings take-out. I’m difficult, but I know what I want.
You’re not difficult and you CAN get what you want. There is a lid for every pot! There is someone out there looking for someone like you too. Everything that my ex could not be, my new bf is. That’s why I tell people not to settle. <3
I think we all want different things in different stages of life. In the end we all want to be loved and appreciated.
I really love this, and this was my fave- “He is our lighthouse in the storm and the rainbow afterwards.” I always tell my daughters to pay close attention to the parents of their boyfriends, watch the relationship , the laughter, the ease.. you learn so much from being an observer. I truly believe my husband makes me a better person
True, true and true! I have been with my husband for over 10 years, and although he is not perfect, he has proven his unconditional love and caring countless times. I also think our love continues to change and transform as time goes on.
I just want my Man to be my partner. He is my best friend and even though he can drive me crazy sometimes I would not have it any other way.
I would have to agree with this. It’s nice to have a man who supports us but also puts us in our place when we’re wrong.
It’s important for me for a man to be able to communicate effectively and I want us to be on the same level so that we can understand each other easily. These are nice characteristics for a man to have.
So many things over time. respect and appreciation are so important in my world everything grows out of those characteristics
This is so romantic. After 35 years of being married to the same man, I am happy to say he is and does so many of these things!
We all are different,but I think we all want a thing:be Loved as we are!
Such a great post! All of these points are so very true, and boil down to being an open, equal partner!
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All of these things in a guy sound like a winner to me. I really feel like I lucked out with my sweet hubby!
Yes, yes and yes! Definitely points I am looking for in a man. Seeing beauty when I am at my worst is an important one haha.
Great post. You can try to give everything sometimes that may be impossible if you have children and even adult children. Enjoyed reading.
I want a complete and total partner in life and that’s just what I got! I am so thankful for the loving and supportive husband and parent to our kiddos my hubs is!
I agree wholeheartedly with what you say that women want. I especially want to be told that they love me. I am audio learner and that helps me in my relationships I think.
When you get married and have a baby, things will be quite different, so as what you would want from your partner. 🙂 But one thing remains the same, you would want him to be your confidante. 🙂
I am very grateful to be more in love with my husband with every passing year (15!!!) – time has made our relationship much stronger.
I’m glad you have figured out everything you want in a man. As my life goes on, my requirements are simply: Shows me respect, is always there for me and has the same values as me.
I think all of your suggestions for what we want in a man are realistic. Keeping that relationship open and working is tough work. It doesn’t just happen and stay that way. But if these things are important to both of you than it has a way of just being.
It is so true! We are such loving creature and we want to be loved the way we know how.