I had a blog on hypnotherapy planned for today but this week’s Kardashian social media explosion got me thinking… do you really want to be empowered by your sexuality? I am a supporter of celebrating the naked body and I want women to embrace their sexuality, but something inside me doesn’t want someone to be empowered by it.
I fully support women feeling sexy, especially moms, but that nude photo Kim posted came off as a women looking for validation from strangers. In one of her responses, she listed everything she is– a wife, mother, daughter, and sister, so why not draw your confidence from all those things? Why not draw your empowerment from building a brand? I’m sure there are so many wonderful things about Kim that the world doesn’t get to see because it’s masked by vanity and excess. I believe everyone, especially her, is more than just a body.
While we’re on this subject, I’m also over the terms “fat shaming†and “slut shamingâ€â€¦ really any phrase that includes the word “shamingâ€. I read that back and forth between her and Chloe and Bette and Pink… Why is it that when someone gives an opposite opinion it’s automatically some form of shaming now? Most of what I read was exactly what I said—YOU’RE MORE THAN YOUR BODY. That’s not shaming. I find that statement to be so empowering. You are goodness, you are brains, you are life in action.
When I was working with Justina on branding for Nikki Nurtures, I said: I REFUSE TO BE ONE OF THOSE HALF NAKED GIRLS ON INSTAGRAM JUST TO GET FOLLOWERS. It’s not a slam to them because if they got it and they want to flaunt it, that’s up to them. I, as a coach, just felt like I had more to give. I have knowledge, compassion, love, and understanding. Those personality traits empower me. Not my bikini photos. What I have to offer this world can be done in clothes.
Marc Jacobs said one of my favorite quotes of all time:
“Young girls need to learn that sexiness isn’t about getting nakedâ€
I want you all to feel comfortable and beautiful when you’re naked. I want you to feel comfortable in your skin but know that your body is truly a temple and you should be careful how you share it. You are not just T&A. You have more to offer this world. You’re more than your body. Find your purpose.
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Nikki I couldn’t agree with you more. While I am a fan of the Kardashian/Jenner clan I was deeply disappointed by Kim’s decision to post her nude selfies with the justification being empowerment. While that really may have been her goal, she has done far too many things for attention (i.e. posting a picture of her son the same day her brother’s fiancee announced she was pregnant or posting overly intimate pictures of her and her husband during Beyonce’s Lemondae presentation) for me to buy that she was taking a stand for women’s empowerment. I feel as though young girls think less is more because of celebs like Kim K and then find themselves in adult situations they aren’t ready for. It is truly a shame, but I digress.
This was a great post I had never heard that Marc Jacobs quote before but I totally agree. I love when influential people do and say great things that actually make a difference in the world.
I agree completely with what you’ve said above. I remember when my breasts finally came in, and I went from nothing to DDs in less than 2 years. Initially, I was so embarrassed, I hid in tent like sweaters and shirts often turtlenecks to provide maximum coverage. It took me having a friend in college helping me to be comfortable with my body the way it was. Of course, in my 20s, I learned to take advantage of the attention they got. It took me a while to learn I got just as much attention for just being me in an off the shoulder number as I did in a low cut top. The difference was that the attention I got when more covered up actually was interested in the whole me.
Wonderful post! I have to agree with you that women should feel sexy but to me Kim’s post was trashy. Women need to hear more of this message.
Something I’m learning as I get older is sexuality isn’t just the stuff like showing skin, ect. There’s this whole other beautiful side of it that I’ve found since I’ve had my daughter, which sounds weird but run with me on this. I wouldn’t have had her if I wasn’t a sexual person. She’s amazing and the best thing I’ve done. That gives me a new respect for that sexual side of my self that I didn’t have when I was younger and thought sexuality was all about looking hot half naked. Does that make sense?
Absolutely! <3
I nodded my head in agreement throughout this post. Although we may not always agree with one another, the most important thing is that we are using our platforms to stand in our truths.