I had a blog on hypnotherapy planned for today but this weekâ€™s Kardashian social media explosion got me thinkingâ€¦ do you really want to be empowered by your sexuality? I am a supporter of celebrating the naked body and I want women to embrace their sexuality, but something inside me doesnâ€™t want someone to be empowered by it.
I fully support women feeling sexy, especially moms, but that nude photo Kim posted came off as a women looking for validation from strangers. In one of her responses, she listed everything she is– a wife, mother, daughter, and sister, so why not draw your confidence from all those things? Why not draw your empowerment from building a brand? Iâ€™m sure there are so many wonderful things about Kim that the world doesnâ€™t get to see because itâ€™s masked by vanity and excess. I believe everyone, especially her, is more than just a body.
While weâ€™re on this subject, Iâ€™m also over the terms â€œfat shamingâ€ and â€œslut shamingâ€â€¦ really any phrase that includes the word â€œshamingâ€. I read that back and forth between her and Chloe and Bette and Pinkâ€¦ Why is it that when someone gives an opposite opinion itâ€™s automatically some form of shaming now? Most of what I read was exactly what I saidâ€”YOUâ€™RE MORE THAN YOUR BODY. Thatâ€™s not shaming. I find that statement to be so empowering. You are goodness, you are brains, you are life in action.
When I was working with Justina on branding for Nikki Nurtures, I said: I REFUSE TO BE ONE OF THOSE HALF NAKED GIRLS ON INSTAGRAM JUST TO GET FOLLOWERS. Itâ€™s not a slam to them because if they got it and they want to flaunt it, thatâ€™s up to them. I, as a coach, just felt like I had more to give. I have knowledge, compassion, love, and understanding. Those personality traits empower me. Not my bikini photos. What I have to offer this world can be done in clothes.
Marc Jacobs said one of my favorite quotes of all time:
â€œYoung girls need to learn that sexiness isnâ€™t about getting nakedâ€
I want you all to feel comfortable and beautiful when youâ€™re naked. I want you to feel comfortable in your skin but know that your body is truly a temple and you should be careful how you share it. You are not just T&A. You have more to offer this world. Youâ€™re more than your body. Find your purpose.