Self-Reflection Change is always hard, but if you don’t understand why you do certain things, change will become even harder. Self-reflection can be a tedious process if you’re not used to tapping into your own mind, but it’s an important process to go through if you want to move forward in life. Have you ever failed to do something multiple times? Maybe you’ve tried to diet and just can’t seem to stick with it. There may be things in your past, locked inside your self-conscious, keeping you from achieving what you’d hope to. Self-reflection is also great way to learn how better ways of coping and most importantly, loving yourself through all of your trials and tribulations.
I was a mess for quite a few years. I battled depression, drinking my feelings, eating my feelings… I was also mean, spiteful, and reactionary. Not to say that I don’t still have a bit of “sassitudeâ€, but through my own self-reflection, I’ve pretty much pulled a 180. Early on in my weight-loss journey, I would hike for hours. I would get lost in the canyons on Los Angeles and really get a chance to think. I thought about all the relationships in my life between family, friends, and boyfriends past. I thought about the person I wanted to be… and realized that there was a lot of bad mojo keeping me from being the best version of myself. I needed to work on forgiving people and putting focus on ME. I was always so worried about what everyone else thought I should be doing that I could never truly focus on what I wanted. Once I realized all this, I blossomed. I’m thankful for that time of reflection, even though it was sometimes painful.
Everything you do, you do for a reason. Some things are learned from childhood and some experiences you go through leave a permanent mark. There may be a certain situations or feelings that you think you’ve dealt with that winds up subconsciously affecting you. How do you identify these things? You’ll have a lot of thinking to do. I suggest journaling or meditation. Think about the times where everything was going wrong and compare them to points in your life when everything was perfect. What were the differences? How did you approach those situations? Were you influenced by other people? Let your thoughts and feelings flow. True happiness comes when you have a greater understanding of yourself.
