rape1 in 4 women is a victim of sexual assault. 1 in 6 women is a victim of attempted/completed rape. This is not ok. I am a victim. It’s not something I talk about or carry with me, but with all of the recent rape culture discussion hitting the internet lately, I thought I’d share some of my thoughts.

I wasn’t asking for it, nor do I think any woman is every ASKING for it. I was among friends… or so I thought. A fun night of drinking with friends ended with me waking up with a guy on top of me. It took days for it to actually sink in and when I wanted to say something, I was basically intimidated out of it by his friends. It’s been 11 years. I have healed, forgiven and moved on, but it’s not that easy for everyone.

Let’s get back to this “asking for it” bit… I don’t care if a woman wants to walk around naked, it doesn’t mean anyone has the right to assault her or rape her. Men need to control their fucking hormones and learn to respect women as their equal. We are not inferior beings put on this planet to be sexual objects.

Rape is not ok and we, as a society, need to stop pretending like it is acceptable. Sexually assaulting someone, whether physically or verbally is not ok either! All are emotional and physical violations.

Your body, your rules. Let’s stop being so scared to speak up for ourselves ladies.

Please check out my youtube video for more thoughts on the subject:

xoxo
Nikki