Hi, Iâ€™m Nikki and I suffer from chronic worrying. Able to jump to the worst conclusion in a single bound. Sometimes I can take anxiety to a new level, but I have been able to control it 98% of the time. There are instance when I donâ€™t know exactly why Iâ€™m worrying, but most of the time, I know exactly what is stressing me out and Iâ€™ve learned out to relax when I get like this.
These are the steps I go through when trying to relax my worried mind:
- Write down what is making me worry so much. Maybe I have a mental task list of 1000 things I want to accomplish. That would stress anyone out, especially if youâ€™re then worried that youâ€™re going to forget something. WRITE IT DOWN. Getting it out of your head and onto paper will help you manage your own expectations. Most of the time I find that itâ€™s actually not THAT much work to do one I write it down.
- Stop worrying about what other people think and do. If it doesnâ€™t affect you, then it shouldnâ€™t concern you. If something that someone else is doing or saying really bothers you that much, talk to them, write them an emailâ€¦ address them on the issue. It all comes back to not holding your thoughts inside.
- Keep work at work. If you are able to, turn off email notifications and promise yourself not to worry about work until you get there the next day. I live by â€˜if itâ€™s important enough, someone will call meâ€™.
- Remember that life is short. Some tasks are not important RIGHT NOW. The dishes will still be dirty tomorrow, the laundry can waitâ€¦. Etc. Itâ€™s ok to choose a nap over chores. They really arenâ€™t worth worrying about.
- Walk away from it. I canâ€™t tell you how many times Iâ€™ve been completely overwhelmed at the office and just went for a quick 10-minute walk to regroup.
- Get sweaty! Working out is a natural relaxer. The more you work out, the more control you have over your body and thoughts. The same breathing techniques you use during your workout will work on a panic/anxiety attack.
- Schedule your â€˜meâ€™ time. If you want to take a bath after work, make it a date! Regardless of what is going on in your life, you have a date with your bathtub tonight. Not having enough time for ourselves is always a huge worry. This is the moment you know you can turn your brain off, so plan for it.
Relaxation is a state of mind. Â The most relaxing spot in the world wonâ€™t be relaxing if you canâ€™t turn your brain off. What are your biggest worries? What step or steps from this list will help you the most?