You are a badass. No, really! You are. You should tell yourself things like this every day. Don’t wait for someone else to validate how awesome you are. It’s about knowing your own self-worth and realizing your own potential. Sure, it’s nice when other people see that, but at the end of the day, you need to be your own cheerleader. Most of your self-confidence and drive should come from how you view yourself. What makes you badass? Are you a wiz at work? An adventure seeker? Really good at a hobby? You don’t need to be an army ranger or thrill seeker to be a badass.
You’ll notice a change in your confidence when you start affirming yourself. If you don’t want to jump to calling yourself a badass off the bat, start small. Did you do really well on a project? Tell yourself that or write it down. It’s not conceited to positively inforce badassery with self-directed words of kindness. When it comes down to it, that’s all it is. Words of kindness and positivity you say to yourself about yourself. Being nice to yourself starts in the mind!
Our minds will tells us that we “can’t” and we “shouldn’t” all day if we let them! Some of this is the voice of reason and some of it is self-inflicted doubt. If you affirm yourself, the more you can erase doubt and the less you’ll need other people to affirm you. The funny this is, even when people do affirm you, you don’t always believe it. Why? Because we are our worst critics. It all goes back to the mind and how it controls your over-analyzing, self-destructive thought processes. Affirmations is how you stop your mind from doing this.
I like to write my affirmations in a journal, where only I can see them. Just the act of writing them down gives me a serious confidence boost! My boyfriend and I have a little chalkboard in our kitchen that we write little notes for each other. These are also affirmations. They affirm our love and caring for one another. “We’re like PB&J” and other silly phrases positively impact our feelings for one another. These are especially helpful when we may be mad at one another. Another way to write down your affirmations is on your bathroom mirror. It will be a the first thing you see in the morning and the last thing you see at night. If you’re comfortable talking to yourself, which I do during workouts sometimes, you can always say your affirmation out loud!
You are unstoppable. You are a badass.